I read the first 3 pages (on amazon) of this book called “When You Eat at the Refrigerator, Pull Up a Chair “. The pages pretty much just said that the more you restrict yourself those goodies you like so much, the more you end up wanting them. and, in my case, the more i end up eating them and feeling guilty about it which makes me want to eat even more..
I never before tried to put myself on any diets until after having Jada. And now that i’ve been doing that, is the first time I’ve had so much trouble losing any weight when i really wanted to. I don’t think I ever binged before trying to ‘diet’ either. now from time to time i lose all control at night and eat and eat and eat even when i’m not hungry at all. ohboy, i like this book. so i tried it yesterday and last night and just ate whatever i wanted without feeling guilty about it. I had chocolate bar.. a ‘real’ soda, not diet and granted I don’t have a lot of ‘goodies’ at home. I usually just overeat on regular food when i’m not hungry. But this time I actually just didn’t want to eat anything last night and when i did end up having a latte with toast, I didn’t feel guilty!!!~ woooooottt!! And for the first time in AGES I actually woke up hungry as opposed to waking up bloated and full. wow!
it’s amazing how knowing i can have anything i want guilt free, i suddenly don’t want it. and it was so cool to not think about food all freaking night too. Because at night if i’m not eating it, i’m thinking about it.. lol. but anyways… it has only been 24 hours since i tried thinking this way so it’s tough to call it a personal breakthrough but i like the feeling so far. :)
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you know what…I really like that philosophy! It’s funny, but I think it can also be applied to procrastination vs getting things done…Like, if I give myself permission to do whatever I want with my time, however useless an activity might be, I am far more inclined to get some good work done! It’s amazing how we set up rules for ourselves that we think we should follow, but end up rebelling against them anyway. Human beings are so strange, really. lol
Reply to muckingabouthmm you’re probably right about that. only thing is when i do anything but what i really need to around the house, i don’t usually feel all that guilty till a few days have passed. :)
Reply to Tania (digsite)When you focus too much on not eating, your body will rebel. Focus on waking up a little earlier to plan nutritious meals for the day and watch the weight come off. You see now the energy exerted was on something healthy on what you want your outcome to be. You have to reprogram your mind with positive thoughts. It’s a reboot honey, get ride of the zombie processes that are preventing you from changing your frame of mind to lose weight.
Try to get active with anything. Get Jada out in a stroller sturdy enough for you to roller blade with her. Distractions help too. If you are hungry, go do something. Alot of the time we are eating because we are bored. If you are hungry at night alot of the time it’s your body telling you to get the fuck to bed. Listen, and get the extra sleep. Your body needs extra energy to break down fat. You need an 8 hour sleep night if you plan on losing weight.
Anywho, this were some tips that I found helpful. You’ll lose weight, you have the genetics for it. You are part black dammit! That’s on your side.
Reply to phoenixcoffeeWow, that’s really cool sis! The idea makes sense to me!
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